I am long suffering, and I am as loyal as they come. However, there are somethings that are straight up deal breakers for me in a relationship.
Those that constantly take my “inventory’, especially after being asked not to, are removed from my life. I am quite capable of examining my own behavior. In fact, if I want an outside assessment, I will ask for one. In fact, I will pay for one. I do not need anyone to volunteer, to tell me all the ways I am imperfect, under the guise of “love”.
Those that think they know me better than I know myself, are bounced too. I am a work in progress that is constantly evolving. Those who attempt to freeze frame me, by throwing up my past, do not get to stay on Planet Victorya either.
While these boundaries seem harsh, I have learned over the years what I can live with, and what I cannot. I find the above behaviors abusive. No one wants to be berated by someone, just so they can fallaciously elevate their own egos. And I am no exception~